Top Tips for Helping Your Child Become More Independent

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It is only natural for children to rely on their parents for many things, particularly when they are younger. But as time goes on, you may begin to notice that they will start to crave more independence, which is a natural part of growing up. It might hurt you to see your child pulling away from you a little, but it’s really important for the development. In fact, it’s something that you should try and actively encourage when you feel the time is right, this will of course differ for all children though. 

Here are some tips from a pre-school in Lincoln that you might find useful if your child is looking for a little more independence. 

Take a Step Back

Most parents want to do everything they can to support their child and prevent any mishaps, but sometimes it’s better to take a step back and allow these mishaps to happen (as long as they are not in any danger of course). If your child makes a mistake, they will learn from it and know what to do or what not to do in the future. On the other hand, if you tell them what to do every time, they will never learn what to do on their own and may struggle with things like independent problem solving in the future. 

Give them Chores

As children look for more independence they may also begin asking for a little money or pocket money to use when they go out and about with friends. This can be a great opportunity to ask your child to help you around the house, because this will give them the opportunity to learn new skills and become more confident in their abilities. You could also begin offering them a small amount of money per chore completed if you can. If they start to keep their bedroom tidy on their own or take care of the family pet for you whilst you’re busy, they will start to feel more competent and everyone is happy. 

Ask their Opinions

Regardless of their age all opinions in a household should be equal and listened too. Show your child that their thoughts and opinions are valued by asking them to share what they’re feeling and really listen. Encourage them to make certain decisions, like what you should have for dinner or how you should spend your Saturday together. This is another great way to build up their self-esteem and help them feel more comfortable doing things without you.

Let them Attend Playdates/Sleepovers

The idea of your child being gone for any long amount of time, be it all day or even overnight can be very daunting, especially the first few times it happened. You might not particularly like the idea of your child staying over at someone else’s house but doing so will encourage them to learn how to get by without you as long as all parties are happy with the arrangement. They will step out of their comfort zone and become increasingly more comfortable being away from you as well as learning many new skills they wouldn't have needed had they been at home or had parents close by.

Sleepovers and playdates are also a vital part of growing up for children and building friendships of their own independently. They learn how to become a good friends, how to listen, manners and appropriate behaviour around different people and friends. 

 

What are your top tips for encouraging your child to become more independent? 

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